Improve your personality along with some fun!!!

A silly joke for you :-> >> > One day, there is an American, one Italian, a
> > Indian and a Bangladesh travel around on a private> > helicopter.> >
> > After about one hour travelling, the American take out
> > his cigarette ( Dunhill ) lighted it up and start
> > smoking after two sip, he throw the balance of the> > cigarette.> >
> > The others three persons surprise and ask " Why didn't
> > you finish-up the cigarette before throwing ? " He
> > reply arrogantly " there is a lot of cigarette in my> > country".> >
> > Half an hour later the Italian take a bottle of
> > branded perfume and apply on him and the rest he throw
> > out of the window. The other three persons was
> > surprised and ask " Why did you throw away the perfume
> > ? ". The Italian reply also "there is alot of perfume> > in my country" .> >
> > The Indian don't know what to do suddenly push that
> > Bangladesh out of the helicopter. The other two person
> > was shouted crazyly " Why did you push him> > !!!!!!!?????? " .> >
> > The Indian say slowly "There are lot of people> > in my country ".
> >> > Everybody keep quiet and stay away from the Indian.>

People are your most Important Asset
Dear friend,
Whether in your house or neighborhood, whether in school, college or work place, whether in the club or playfield, we deal with people , be they our friend, relatives or strangers. In a nutshell, everything that comes to us in life has to come through other people “friends, neighbors, countrymen and even foreigners. Therefore, the ability to get along well with people and winning their goodwill, cooperation and support is most vital for you to lead, succeed and live a happy and enjoyable life.
We must get in step with people and tune our thinking to their wavelength. We must first think in terms of the other persons wants and interests, learn about their yearnings, ambitions, interests, needs and hobbies and then swap of them for the things we want in exchange. The more we offer others, the more they will flock to our way of thinking. We must make them a part of our act, give them a part in our show. We must help them to help us. We must change the ME and YOU to â WE.
There is an interesting thing about liking people, which is that they, in turn, like us. When we like people, we are not appealing to their intellect but to the deep rooted social instinct and desire in them to be wanted, to be recognized and to be appreciated. Similarly when you help others, they, in turn, automatically start helping you. You can never elevate yourself by pushing the other person down. Instead, you can help him to help you and lift you up. While aiming high and aspiring to reach the top, we must bear in mind that we are neither arrows nor birds. Step by step, we have to climb to the summit and the people who will give us a leg up along the way are those whom we have befriended and helped.
The other person is thousand times more interested in himself than he is in you or me. The first thing he wants to know concerning any preposition you make to him is, What do T get out of it? Therefore, magnify the YOU and minimize the I. First start talking in terms of his interests, needs and aspirations. Let him see how large is what he will get. Give like for like. Give others more than you ask from them. What you are worth depends upon what you are worth to the other individual. When you want more, you have to make yourself worth more.
To be interested, be interested. Few human beings are proof against the implied flattery of rapt attention. Nothing else is so flattering as exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to us. Many people fail to make a favourable impression because they dont listen attentively. The royal road to a man's heart is to encourage him to talk about himself and the things he treasures most. Even where you cannot oblige, you can certainly speak obligingly. Speak to people in a positive language, picturing pleasure and blocking out pain. Make your words ring wedding bells, and not funeral chimes. You will be welcome everywhere and win your way to success.

People Are Your Most Important asset
From your very birth till your last breath,you live with and among people.One is always surrounded by people unless he or she opts to take 'Sanyas' and choose to live all by oneself in high mountains or thick,jungles. People with whom we act and interact may be young or old,relatives or friends,men or women,clients or customers,seniors or juniors or colleagues,countrymen or strangers.As our life revolves around people,our success and happiness are greatly dependent on them.Therefore,one who can gain the confidence and win teh willing coperation and support of others, alone can lead and succeed.
Getting along with people is not all that difficult.If you are genuinely interested in others,they in turn will take and show interest in you.If you truly like others, they inturn will take to you in a big way.People being our most important asset,we must invest in them and help them to help us.To get what you want,you must first give what the other person wants.To have a friend, you must be a friend first.
A winning personality has genuine interest in, and siceer liking for, other people.Sinerity is the big secret in getting others to go along with us.It is the magic word that makes our personality sizzle rather than fizzle.To win a man to our case, we must first cinvince him by words and deeds that we are his sincere friend.We must prove that we are not selfish and self centred but are equally concerned and conscious of his needs,hopes and aspirations.If there is one secret of success,it is the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from his angle as well as your own.
A cheerful,considerate and helpful person instantly attracts the attention of others and establishes ready rapport with them.Action always speaks better than words and a pleasant smile proclaims."I like you,you make me happy and I am glad to meet you".A genuine smile at once attracts a return smile.It is sunshine to the sad and daylight to the discouraged.With your pleasing smile and your friendly handshake you can tell otehrs that you are very much interested in them.
The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about himself and the things he treasures most.He is million times more interested in himself than in you or me.Encourage him to talk about himself,his accomplishments, his wants and aspirations.Ask questions which he will enjoy answering.Listen with interest and enthusiasm.Never interrupt or contradict.Never criticise or discourage.
Good understandind and proper appreciation make people more important than anything else; we can give them that when we start to appreciate,it forces us to think of the other person and compels us to recignise importance.Let us not wait till somebody does something big to shoe appreciation.Let us, instead, start looking fro things we can appreciate in people we meet,move with and deal with. Let us become the kind of persons that others enjoy being around with. Let us work with, and not against , people. Let us make others part of our team, and let the team win and crown itself with success.

LET GO AND MOVE FORWARD:
Let's face it Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. Now - we can let go of these feelings and emotions that don't really help us move forward or we can choose to hang on to them, which will eventually cripple us - because by hanging on to them we don't allow ourselves to move forward, grow and achieve wonderful things. By hanging on to past events or unwanted emotions we can even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. Some of you may have already heard about the incredible power of letting go - and how it can really change or significantly improve your life. But no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it's easy to say: "Just let go - move forward - forget about it - just let go." Let's face it - that's easier said than done. Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward. Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some we view as positive and pleasant - but there are also experiences that we view as negative and unpleasant. Sometimes these experiences date back years - perhaps going all the way back to your childhood. Other unpleasant or negative experiences may have happened yesterday or 6 months ago. Something someone did may have angered you, caused you to build up resentment, etc. When we hold on to these negative experiences we actually block our ability to move forward. Let me explain what I mean by hanging on to the negative experiences. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience - when you don't let go of it - you are constantly thinking about it. It is something that is regularly on your mind. It is something that you think about in certain situations and when you constantly think about that negative event or negative situation you prevent yourself from moving forward and healing. I'm not talking about memories - we all have memories. But how many memories do you recall regularly? How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, which are preventing your ability to move forward. These negative/unpleasant experiences can range from being a traumatic event that took place during your childhood or a fight you had with a friend which resulted in a grudge that you carry - and because of that grudge you no longer speak to each other. These are the kinds of things many people carry - the more you carry the worse life gets - it's that simple. Why? Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences - because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward - in short - you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down. Think of it this way - you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you - but you want to hang on to. After a while - these objects begin to weigh on you - they slow you down and unless you get rid of them - you'll never get to where you want to go. The key is to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with ---- and move on. That will help - but if you really want to start moving on - then you have to get your mind to focus on new things - in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down. How to Let go and Move Forward Researchers are now looking into how holding on to negative feelings and emotions impacts the nervous system and human cells. The operating theory is that if you hold on to negative feelings and sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell - to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health. Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware of. Sure there have been negative things that have happened - I'm not asking you to ignore them - acknowledge them - they did happen. But ask yourself these questions: Do they serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any or all of the above questions then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next - focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction. At the same time you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions - that negative energy only attracted more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things and focus on what you want you begin shifting that energy and start attracting positive situations to help you create the life you want. The next step is to create a new action plan - the past is over - so what next - where do you want to go now? How do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers to all these questions - but merely thinking about the options and the future - forces your mind to go in a new direction. When you do this - you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions. For example: Let's say you have a fight with a friend - and you're angry - what now? What do you want to happen next? Carrying that anger and resentment no longer helps you and does not serve any positive purpose - so you choose to let go of it. But what about your relationship with your friend - do you want to continue with it? Do you want to improve it? Do you want to set the record straight? Do you want to move on and forget about it? Holding a grudge is not an option. Trying to make that persons life miserable is not an option. Trying to get revenge is not an option. Why not - because those actions are driven by emotions - which you just chose to let go of - so what's next in the relationship? When you make that decision - you've already let go and begun moving on. If you had a traumatic experience as a child and continually re-live that experience then choose to let go of it. Then ask yourself - what now? What next? Do you want to focus on your life now - and if so what aspects? When you do this you've moved the mind away from the past, you've let go of unwanted emotions/feelings and you're taking the next step - which is moving forward. The key to your success is how you train your mind and subconscious mind. If you train your mind to move in a new direction you send new messages to your subconscious mind - which will then bring you the opportunities to move forward. One More Step The final step is to live in the present moment - that is to start living in the now. Some of you may have heard of this before - but living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. It involves creating your future in the present moment - while still enjoying everything that is happening. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. Take some extra time to enjoy a few moments of the day - doing something completely different - but really putting all of yourself into it. When you are here now - you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something - you are not holding on to a past event you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: "But Karim, where I am right now really sucks - I don't want to think about it." It only sucks because you're looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things - anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently - and tells your subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities. Some Action Steps If you're still trying to figure out whether you're holding on to something you need to let go of then do the following: Take note of your thoughts, what are you thinking about regularly? Do these thoughts help you? Are you hanging on to something that no longer serves you? Can you focus on something more positive and productive? If so what? Keep a list and see what you come up with. Remember -- you only get one life and one chance. Make the most of it. Stop defeating yourself, stop limiting yourself. 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Toxic Thinking!!!!
I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age.Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures, but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success. One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight. As a kid, I was always climbing trees, poles, and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house. So, it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth.My little eight-year-old brain didn't realize the tree could break or I could get hurt. I just thought it was fun to be up so high. My older cousin, Tammy, was also in the same tree. She was hanging on the first big limb, about ten feet below me. Tammy's mother also noticed us at the exact same time my dad did. About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree. I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway. I remember my dad's voice over the wind yell, "Bart, Hold on tightly." So I did. The next thing I know, I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs, laying flat on the ground. She had fallen out of the tree. I scampered down the tree to safety. My dad later told me why she fell and I did not. Apparently, Tammy's mother was not as an astute student of language as my father. When Tammy's mother felt the gust of wind, she yelled out, "Tammy, don't fall!" And Tammy did...fall. My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image. In fact, people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all. In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling, her nine-year- old brain had to first imagine falling, then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined. Whereas, my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly. This is why people who try to stop smoking struggle with the act of stopping smoking. They are running pictures all day of themselves smoking.. Smokers are rarely taught to see themselves breathing fresh air and feeling great. The language itself becomes one barrier to success. This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal. You can't visualize not doing something. The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that. For example, when I was thirteen years old, I played for my junior high school football team. I tried so hard to be good, but I just couldn't get it together at that age. I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass, "Don't drop it!" Naturally, I dropped the ball. My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper "self-talk.." They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn't. I'll never make it pro, but I'm now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player,because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win. I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees. I might have had a longer football career. Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary. Ask them to hold a pen or pencil. Hand it to them. Now, follow my instructions carefully. Say to them, "Okay,try to drop the pencil." Observe what they do. Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor. You respond, "You weren't paying attention. I said TRY to drop the pencil. Now please do it again." Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil. The point is made. If you tell your brain you will "give it a try," you are actually telling your brain to fail. I have a "no try" rule in my house and with everyone I interact with.Either people will do it or they won't. Either they will be at the party or they won't. I'm brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try. Do they think I don't know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort? You will never hear the words "I'll try" come out of my mouth unless I'm teaching this concept in a seminar. If you "try" and do something, your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed. If I truly can't make a decision I will tell the truth. "Sorry John. I'm not sure if I will be at your party or not. I've got an outstanding commitment. If that falls through, I will be here. Otherwise, I will not. Thanks for the invite." People respect honesty. So remove the word "try" from your vocabulary. My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement. I have no idea if it is true, but the logic holds true. It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism. These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children. Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus howmany criticisms. Heck! , I know you are talking to yourself all day long. We all have internal voices that give us direction. So, are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like, "I suck. I'm fat.Nobody will like me.. I'll try this diet. I'm not good enough. I'm so stupid. I'm broke,etc. etc." If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement, imagine the kind of programming you aredoing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue. Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words. Notice when you or other people use them. But Try If Might Would Have Should Have Could Have Can't Don't But: negates any words that are stated before it. If: presupposes that you may not. Would have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen. Should have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen (and implies guilt.) Could have: Past tense that draws attention to things that didn't actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen. Try: Presupposes failure. Might: It does nothing definite. It leaves options for your listener. Can't / Don't: These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want. This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error. Examples: Toxic phrase: "Don't drop the ball!" Likely result: Drops the ball Better language: "Catch the ball!" Toxic phrase: "You shouldn't watch so much television." Likely result: Watches more television. Better language: "I read too much television makes people stupid. You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!" Exercise: Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using. Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them. "Being defeated is often a temporary condition, giving up is what makes it permanent." . "Pain is temporary, giving up is permanent." --- David Beckham.